I’ll call you on your shit,
PLEASE CALL ME ON MINE.
Then we can grow together and make this shit-hole planet better in time.
This blog oftentimes criticizes mainstream bisexual movements (especially US/UK/European ones). Before I begin to explain why, I need to say that first and foremost, I feel the utmost respect and appreciation towards the movement and the all the people within it. I consider the bisexual movement my political home. Without their writings, their thoughts, their language, perspectives, experiences and ideas, I could never have come to develop my own bisexual politics or to go on my own bisexual activism. For this, I am incredibly grateful.
However, I think that mainstream bisexual communities are heavily lacking in self-auditing. I have noticed a general discomfort with criticism within the bisexual movement (I’m not sure why, maybe someone can enlighten me?). This leads to a situation where things are static. Nothing is debated, everything is agreed. Things are being done in silence, with only the echo of approving nods to accompany. Nothing changes. Things die out.
I view criticism through an Israeli (read: Middle Eastern) perspective: in my community, it is not only acceptable and commonplace to put forth criticism to our friends and fellow activists (i.e. calling them out), but it’s also considered part of community support, development and discourse. As a half-insider and half-outsider to ‘western’ bisexual movements, it disturbs me to see how the lack of a culture of criticism impedes their development.
I believe that debate, dissent, dischord and conflict are the living fire of a community’s heart. Each of these things allows us to disagree, argue, learn, teach, form opinions, develop concepts and language, and ultimately grow and change. For me, to criticize the movement is to express solidarity with it, to contribute to it, and to help it expand.